The Evening I Almost Checked Myself into a Mental Hospital

We are about to get real with this one. Yesterday, I almost checked myself into a hospital. I had a mental/nervous/panic breakdown where I could not move, I was shaking and trembling, and I had WAY too many thoughts in my head. All I could do in that moment is DM a friend who I’ve recently had disputes with and was not on speaking terms. I missed my friend though, and for some reason I felt the need to spill all my thoughts into her lap. (I know, that’s not healthy, but I never said I was perfect.)

All she could tell me was to go to a mental hospital.  And she was very persistent about it.

“No, I’m not doing that.” “This is not my first rodeo, I can handle it.” “I don’t want to scare my family, friends, and the people that look up to me.” “I’m supposed to be the strong one.”

I spewed all of these excuses into her Instagram messages. Excuses I still run by, but I admit, excuses nonetheless. I low key felt like I needed to go, but I was being defiant and fearful for a new journey that I have never dared to step into..

“I’m not that crazy, am I?”

I thought to myself…I spent a good amount of time alternating between searching for a hospital and screaming in my bed sheets. Feeling my heart beating terribly fast and trying to calm down. Even when I started to calm, I still felt the need to go. I did not want my friend to freak out and I wanted to go so she felt at peace somewhat.

I had no idea where to look, what kind of hospital to find, if I needed to call a hotline, or what. I was so lost. I googled hotlines and saw many that it felt overwhelming. I didn’t know where to start.

I finally found a behavioral treatment center and decided to go there. During the drive, I was just dead focused on my life and how the hell I got to this point. I pulled up, walked in, filled out a patient sheet, and moved on with the process. The place seemed a bit unorganized and a few of the employees felt a bit jaded, but I was already there so I wasn’t planning on turning back. Cameras were everywhere. There was no plastic bags in the trash cans for obvious reasons. I had to lock up my keys and wallet. Everything was…different. Controlled. Everything was locked, including the restroom doors. And when I had to use it, I had to leave the door cracked in case I tried anything crazy. While waiting to be called in this small weird little waiting area, I spoke to a young black boy who said he’s been here 16 times. 16 times?? He’s not even a teen yet, and he’s dealing with behavioral issues. It put my situation in perspective. I was continuously asking myself while in Nike slides and tube socks,

“Do I even belong here?” “This is wild.” “I have never ever been in a situation like this.”

But I was willing to follow through.

I spoke to a lady that seemed like a behavioral specialist in what seemed like an interrogation room. There was a big code blue button on the wall and another camera; in case I decide to go crazy and drop kick her or something. She was actually really nice and we had a long conversation about my triggers and life backstory, but being interested in mental health and studying psychology in college, I was already hip to most of the tactics and processes she was using. I was honest about my situations, but I made it to make sure I wasn’t marked as some emergency patient or anything.

“No, I never attempted or thought of killing myself.”

This was partly true. I’ve never attempted suicide, but I’ve had thoughts and urges plenty of times. Even at that moment I had the breakdown I had thoughts, but I would never do it because I know too many people that would be devastated if I did.

Moving forward, me and her danced with the thought of being admitted in and staying for up to three weeks and receiving treatment. I was being hard about staying, but I think deep inside I wanted to receive that treatment. Fear is what stopped me. Fear of losing my job. Fear of a new and weird journey. Fear of the true acceptance of my mental incapacity. Fear of the reactions of my family and friends. I was sent home after I promised to not hurt myself or anyone else.

I’m sharing this story for anyone that would like to get an inside look of this process in case they were considering going or suggesting someone else to go. I still might go, but we shall see. I’m always free to discuss.

Beat the ‘Beetus

About a month ago, I was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. All the days of mac n’ cheese and nachos finally caught up with me. Cheese was my stress food and fast food was my vice. I was working out an average of  2-3 days a week, but my eating habits was and still is kind of a disaster. I opted for convenience and not health. My body has finally had enough.

Carpal tunnel, in and out blurry vision, weakness, and low energy was all the signs I took for granted.

Feeling discouraged, but not defeated, I had to pick myself back up and work harder for my health and life. Luckily, it can be prevented with healthier eating and more exercise. I have to workout more of course, but the biggest change that must be done is my eating habits. More veggies and leafy greens, less fried foods and carbs.

Luckily, it can be prevented with healthier eating and more exercise. I’ve been slowly improving my health since then by making more active transportation decisions, incorporating salads and greens into my life a bit more, and making exercise a daily priority, but it’s still very hard to break bad habits. I still crave fast food, pizza, nachos, mac ‘n cheese, ice cream, and more. Sometimes I need a little encouragement.

That’s why I created this graphic T-Shirt and more below for people who may be struggling and for those who want to support their loved ones or in general in beating something that is effecting more people than we care to admit. My journey has just begun, but it will be a journey to complete, and I hope the same for everyone that can relate. I’m going to Beat The ‘Beetus!

Click here for Beat the ‘Beetus Gear

Do I offend?

What’s that smell? Do I offend?

Does my presence hurt your senses?

Sorry for not being clean, I just can’t seem to find the right soap.

I keep trying different kinds that’s recommended from many friends, family, and professionals, but nothing seems to be working. I can’t shake it off.

I used to think others carried that stench around me, but maybe it comes from me.

Maybe I’m the one turning up noses and causing people to leave.

But who’s to blame? Who takes the responsibility? I’m just saying.

Maybe I’m not clean because people used to not appreciate my cleanliness.

Maybe I’m not clean because people will manipulate me if I am.

Maybe I’m not clean because I choose not to.

This may be self-created and I hate it, but I just don’t know how to change it.

I’m working on it. So sorry if I offend.

Will you accept my toxic scent until I get clean? Or will you leave in disgust?

Your choice.

 

Wherever The Wind Blows

Sometimes I’ve wished to have a simpler mind.

The kind that only creates one route with a sign.

So many paths I want to take and people I want to be.

Ambition is the mission, and vision is still the key.

But I can’t see the way, when I don’t know it.

I need guidance, someone to show it.

I have the drive, I just need a map.

So many road blocks and turnarounds, oil changes and flats.

But I refuse to stop, I have a couple plans.

Let the wind show the way like a helping hand.

I’ll keep walking and have faith in the flow.

Trust in the wind, I’ll go wherever it goes.

 

 

Nearly There

I admit, I’ve been slipping on my self-care.

Do I dare to live a life that doesn’t compare to a traveler nearly there?

Is life particularly fair if your head’s stuck in the air?

Got to wake up from this hell and get out of this nightmare.

Maybe I should use the pair of my hands to ask for blessings.

Maybe I should go to the wise for life lessons.

Maybe I could just pick up a pen and start expressing my fears, failures, depression, I’m sick of blindly guessing.

Whatever works, I just need me a sign, I’m totally blind, give a me guide to walk behind.

So I don’t fall in a trap, this deadly path, has me nervous, drinking bourbon, and trying to be of a service,

to the people that look to me. Finally I see.

A role model is whoever that they want to be.

My fulfillment’s not in money, its impact.

But first I’m pushing through the dark, and I mean that.

Mental health in an unforgiving world. (Journal)

I am seething with hate right now. It seems like road blocks are consistent in my path of growth. So I’m free-writing right now. Your eyes are my journal.

I was diagnosed with clinical depression and social anxiety in 2018, around the same time I was attending Sam Houston State University for a Masters in Higher Education Administration.

I always felt like I had depression since high school, but the fact that it was set in stone was almost devastating for me. It was like a fresh start of crippling depression and I did not know how to fully handle it.

Because of this, I started to slip away in my performances of life: family duties, work duties, but especially school duties. If you have ever gone to a graduate program, you would know that generally you cannot make C’s and you only get so many chances before you are terminated from the program. Since I was diagnosed, I found myself struggling with professors and feeling the purpose of most work. Long story short, I was terminated for the program for too many C’s caused by things I will not discuss.

I will take part blame, but also, my recent diagnosis made a huge impact and I just felt like the program and the professors did not take that well into hand. I was accepted into the disability program on campus, which helped, but it could not stop the crushing blow of failure to crack my ribs. I appealed three times in a desperate attempt to remain in the program. My last appeal with in a room full of professors and administrators of a culture that knew nothing about mine and I felt every bit of that.

I’m now having issues in every way of enhancing my career in education, and it sucks because every time I try to breath above water, life tends to push my head back in. I’m drowning.

Just thinking about that, all of  the years of trying to find myself and my happiness, my worldview, and the way I see how people are treated and treat each other, it only enhances my anxiety. Not being able to shake the feeling of loneliness. Not being able go to a store without headphones or avoiding people at all costs. Going back home prematurely after leaving because I can’t deal with people at the moment.

I don’t want to leave my home. I don’t want to meet people. I don’t want anything to do with this society.

I am seething with hate, and drowning in hopelessness. I remain positive, but how many times will I have a palm on chest before I start breaking wrists? I have people that look up to me. I have people I look up to. I need to be strong for them. I need to be strong for myself. But damn.

Giving up is not an option. I’ve tried many times before and it never works. My drive precedes all doubt. But how can I operate in this cold world with this diagnosis? Self-Care? Meditation? Drugs? Therapy? Music? Jesus?

It’s a constant fight between light and dark in my head. I just want peace and happiness to come from the outside world, because every time I leave my home it feels like I’m walking into a jungle. Journal over. If you’ve felt the way I have, let’s talk.

An Agnostics’ Prayer

I come to you, battered and helpless.

My demons have overstayed their welcome.

Society and personal afflictions have kept me from you.

Nothing on this beautiful earth truly helps to the extent of true peace, so I must look beyond.

I lay in a dark and quiet room, alone, desperately looking for a way out of the mist of despair I once gladly walked into.

I went to escape the realities of this world, but I’ve seemed to become lost.

I’ve tried to find my way by myself for too long.

I need your help, your guidance, for how can I guide others when I am lost myself?

I’m still your soldier, I just went rogue.

Show me the way, and I will forever be grateful.

Amen.

G.L.A.D Pt. 1

Grateful.

I am grateful to have family, friends, mentors, and mentees to keep me sane as we all grow together.

Learning.

I am learning my true fulfillment; I once chased money from the fear having none due to the past, but now I chase impact as the change I create in this world is the only thing that fills my soul.

Achieving.

I am achieving progress in a clear understanding of my role in this world and what I bring to it.

Delight.

I am delighted to know that my journey, through the good, the bad, and the horrendous, has the ability of making me stronger for myself and those around me. A plant has to push through the dirt before it can be seen by the sun.

This is a practice I do when I am surrounded by negative thoughts. It helps me a lot and it could be done anywhere. I encourage you to pick this up when you need a boost of positivity in your life. Just think of the first positive thing that comes to your mind when hearing these four words, and be glad that you are giving yourself a bit of fresh air.

Your life is a book. Control the Story.

The clichè phrase is, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” But we don’t even get that chance with our own book. We have to read our lives, because it’s our story; and sometimes we feel like we can’t change our story.

Thinking past things like religion, politics, science, etc, we tend to feel like the pen is taken away from us in certain chapters of our lives. But we can take the pen back. We can control our story. All it takes is a bit of push and a certain mindset.

Chapters are just chapters. They are never the full story.

Sometimes we feel like a chapter is never ending and it may be our entire story. The only story that people will know and remember. That is not true. Your story is full of chapters that have already been written and many that you have yet to explore. Don’t focus so much on your current chapter because it may seem permanent now. Time heals. Things change. Adaptation is a human element.

Sometimes the worst chapters make the best stories.

Were you ever truly inspired by a story with no challenges, obstacles, or pitfalls? Likely not! You may feel like you’re in the worst chapter of your life, and who knows, you may be! But that just means that it will get better. And when people read your story, they will appreciate the triumph you’ve accomplished from one chapter to another. Learn from your worst chapters and the next ones as glorious as possible.

You may not get to decide some chapters, but you do get to decide the whole story.

Remember those goosebumps books where you choose different paths and flipped a page to see your fate? I used to love those books. When I flipped the page and found I died or something stupid happened like I was bitten by toys or something (goosebumps was weird), I would never just close the book and never read it again. I would go back to where I was and change the damn story! This is exactly what you can do with your own story. You may not be able to change or control unforeseen instances in your life, but what matters is how you bounce back from them. What matters is you know that you can decide how your story will end.

Don’t get stuck in one part of your life. Think about your life as a whole. Your achievements, your struggles, your upbringing, your peers, and so much more contribute to your story. But the main thing that controls the story is YOU. The other things are just factors. Make the readers of your book know that you have emerged victorious in your eyes by the last page. This is your story and no one else’s.

Someone please share love’s location.

Will someone share with me love’s location?

I can’t find this woman anywhere.

I’ve checked bars, tea shops, the internet, the library, hell, I even check Popeyes from time to time. Every where I go, I keep an eye out for love.

I haven’t spoken to love since 2016. I mean, she doesn’t return my calls, she moves addresses at least once a year, and I could never seem to get a grip on how she’s feeling.

Those that found love never seem to know where love is for me. I just need one person to share love’s location for me.

I need to prove to love that I’m worthy, but how can I shine in love if I can never find her?

Maybe I’m not looking hard enough? Maybe I’m not supposed to find her? I’m so confused and lost. I wonder if love is as lost as I am. Am I the only one truly confused about love’s location?

Everyday I struggle to strive for and promote personal growth. But sometimes I feel that I can’t truly grow until I find her.

So someone, please, share with me love’s location. I’m sure she has an iPhone. I heard that people write about her and tell other people stories about where they located love.

By the way, usually when I thought I’ve found love, its some kind of weird jackass in a love costume pretending to be love and spreading toxic gas every time I get too close. Piece of shit. Anyway.

I have gas money. I can get a plane ticket. Do I need a passport? Just somebody, anybody, tell me. Where is love? I must find her.